Dealing with isolation as a young mum 

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Health Assured team

30 August 2022

Statistics show that 52% of new parents felt both lonely and socially isolated. 

The journey to parenthood comes with huge changes, from pregnancy to childbirth and getting used to life as a parent. It’s a change in the pace of life, a switch up of routine and new thoughts, feelings and emotions to get used to.

It’s a beautiful time with plenty of happy moments, but motherhood also has its challenges too—and one of those is isolation. Recovering from childbirth is different for everyone, and while advice suggests that this process takes six to eight weeks, many women find it takes much longer. On top of this, disturbed sleeping routines and the demands of parenthood can take their toll, making the road to recovery even more challenging.

Even after this point, the lack of social interaction that comes with being at home and on maternity leave can be difficult to adjust to. New parenthood obligations may make it hard to connect with friends in the usual way, and this feeling of disconnect can be hard to manage. 

If you’re a new mum and you’re feeling isolated, or you’re looking out for other young mums in your life, we’ve put together some tips below that might help.

Talk to others about how you’re feeling 

Isolation and loneliness are painful emotions to experience. Letting these feelings bottle up can intensify them even more; over time, this can be extremely overwhelming. 

Although talking to others about your feelings can be daunting, it’s one of the best things you can do to feel connected. Being a parent is a tough job—and these feelings are normal. You can talk to anyone; it could be a friend, partner, relative, support group or even your doctor. These conversations can open up pathways to connection—these people might also have advice or experiences that could help.

Meet other young mums 

Becoming a mum can switch up the types of social connection you’re used to—that said, it may also open up the door to new opportunities. Going to a baby group, mums meet up or joining an online community can provide a chance to meet new people and make new bonds. Trying something like this can be unnerving if you’ve never done it before. But many mums find that these groups provide a space to connect with people who know exactly what you’re going through.

Take a walk in nature 

The great outdoors brings a range of physical and mental health benefits. After all, exercise is one of the most beneficial things you can do to give your health a boost, and it helps to release mood-elevating hormones too. You’ll keep your vitamin D levels in good shape and increase your social connection levels with every walk you take. Research also shows that spending time in green spaces can reduce anxiety and encourage creativity.

Be kind to yourself 

The major life changes that come with pregnancy and motherhood can be a lot to take on. It’s a new journey, and these changes are likely to take some time to get used to. Changes in routine can lead to increased stress levels. Over time, this increased stress can trigger burnout—a state of mental and physical exhaustion.

It’s important to protect yourself from burnout and soothe any stress you might be feeling. Remember to be kind to yourself and try to limit any negative self-talk. Give yourself time to adjust and make room for things you enjoy where possible. It could be as simple as cooking your favourite meal having a short bath, or reading a book you enjoy. If you can make time for these small moments of you time, it provides a mini reset and gives you time to release stress, as well as any other emotions you might be feeling. 


Want to support employees on maternity leave?

Our Employee Assistance Programme provides a 24/7 counsellor support line, allowing your people to talk through any difficulties they might be facing. We can help you support your parent employees.

We can also provide structured counselling for those who need it to deal with mental health issues like anxiety and depression.

If you have any questions, call us on 0800 206 2532

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