In every relationship, some rain is gonna fall. And some hard conversations need to happen.
Think of it this way: If you do them well, they’ll actually bring you closer together. Really, it can. Read on and find out how.
Give yourself time to prepare
Most conversations don’t have to happen at the exact moment when you have a strong feeling. Most feelings are not emergencies. But the fact that you felt strongly in the moment means that it’s a topic worth returning to later. You’ll be a more effective communicator, and you’ll be less likely to try to land any low blows.
You might want to say something like, “I want to talk about this later. I just need to gather my thoughts.” That acknowledges what’s occurred and that it had an emotional impact, and your partner will then be able to consider their feelings as well.
Excerpt from Psych Central, read the full article here